Considering the Unthinkable

In my daily funeral research across the internet, I read a lot about death and dying.   This story captured my attention, my emotions, AND my professional interest like no other.


My Son Only Lived for 80 Minutes, but He Helped Save Many Lives




This family’s loss, of their precious baby born with anencephaly–it is, for any woman who has been pregnant, absolutely unthinkable, from a very real sense of denial, of avoidance.

But their story, while tragic, is equally beautiful.  It’s inspiring to me how they managed to think through their options and make space for the most meaning possible from his death, specifically donation of his organs and body to research and medical science.

These parents likely had time to plan ahead; it’s highly likely that they knew he wouldn’t survive long past birth, and so were able to discuss, consider, and make plans and preparations for the certainty of his death.  In that small way, perhaps, his death was made simpler.

That doesn’t matter, though, ultimately.

What we do know now is that YOU WILL DIE, just like precious Amalya Nathaniel up there, just like his loving parents.  And someone will have to make choices for your remains, just as they did for Amalya.

Your body can be used for science like his was (it’s easy to make some of those arrangements now).  It can be cremated, or embalmed and sealed away in a ritzy casket (or not).  It can be sown into the earth in a simple shroud, left to decompose, or purposely decomposed by forensic researchers in many states (Texas, for one–at Texas State San Marcos).  The options are many, the providers diverse–all begging out for you to consider them NOW, before it’s your time to need them!   Failing to do so will cost you and your loved ones, in time, money, and stress.

What is it that you want?   Do you even know, or do you need to talk about options?   If you don’t really know, and especially if your loved ones don’t know what you want–it’s time to put some thought to it, and put the thoughts in writing.

Need help?   Some outside the box ideas? Maybe a little tough-love encouragement?  I do that–email me!


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